“Does your face light up?”

I recently read a book called: “You Can Be Right [or You Can Be Married]” by Dana Adam Shapiro. While the book has more to do with marriage (which I might tell you about in a future post), the following quote is what inspired me today as I think about all the precious little munchkins that came by my house in their costumes last night. It makes me think about all the times my parent’s face did or did not light up when I came into a room.

“Ms. Morrison explained that it’s interesting to watch what happens when a child walks into a room. She asked, “Does your face light up?” She explained, “When my children used to walk in the room when they were little, I looked at them to see if they had buckled their trousers or if their hair was combed or if their socks were up…You think your affections and your deep love is on display because you’re caring for them. It’s not. When they see you, they see the critical face. What’s wrong now? Her advice was simple, but paradigm-shifting for me. She said, “Let your face speak what’s in your heart. When they walk in the room my face says I’m glad to see them. It’s just as small as that, you see?” page 223

Aww…this almost brings tears to my eyes. I can feel the tears there, just waiting. This is such a great reminder of how we need to be present and aware of how we come across to little bambinos. Having said all that, I think this still applies to adults too. What if our face lit up when we saw our spouses, family, and co-workers walk into a room. How would it feel if others reacted in that way towards us? Would we feel more loved and connected to others if we saw them light up when we arrived?

I thought about this yesterday when I answered the doorbell for those costumed munchkins. I knelt down with my bowl of candy and talked to them at their level. I looked at them face-to-face. I saw their excitement and energy for Halloween. I was inspired by their exuberance. That is my challenge to myself, to approach the munchkins and bambinos I encounter with the light in my eyes, and my heart on my face. I will let that all speak for itself.

Are you with me!?


3 thoughts on ““Does your face light up?”

  1. I absolutely LOVE this post. What a great reminder. As a dad to two beautiful kiddos, I am constantly thinking about how I’m influencing my kids. There are times when I feel I completely fail them. My hopes are that they know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I love them with all my heart. That I can’t wait to see their cute little faces and hear about their individual days when I get home. That I am a safe place for them to just “be” and share and learn. That even if I fail them and let my selfish side show through frustration and impatience, I will always love them more than anything and nothing will ever change that. Above all else, I hope they know that.
    Thank you for the great post (as always) and the wonderful reminder.


    • You are definitely creating a safe place for your precious little ones! You have mentioned the first and most important thing (and what I often did not always feel growing up) – that more than anything else that they feel loved. Nothing else matters. Thank you for sharing!


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