A Letter From Your Little Bug

For those of you that have been following my blog for a bit know that I have been thinking about motherhood. I recently found this great letter on The Huffington Post website. It is from their “Honest Toddler” section with the tag: “Not potty trained. Not trying.” It is a letter from a little one to their mother. It is cleverly written, honest, and direct. I wonder if I could birth a child with such an eloquent way of writing while so young (wink. wink). I am not going to copy the letter in its entirety, but will share this excerpt:

“You seem tired and short-tempered this morning which is why I felt more comfortable writing this than having a face-to-face. Can I get you anything? A cup of coffee? While you’re up please bring me a sippy cup of juice and some unbroken crackers. Oh that’s right. We don’t have crackers… I recall you saying that around 1:15. That’s OK. Why keep the house stocked with my favorite foods? I’m sure we have two kinds of wine though. But that’s fine.”

Intrigued? You will have to click the above link to read the entire letter.

I also wanted to share a good reminder from David Kanigan’s blog, which I have featured before on my blog. He posts the quote:

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.”  -Peggy O’Mara (www.silverpen.com)

Oh how true that is. How many times do I go to do things and think about how my reasoning has to do with something my mom or dad said to me when I was young. It is even a good reminder for all of us in how we talk to others.

Tears While Watching this VW Ad

Just saw this VW ad this week. It brought tears to me eyes. Many of the comments I have read about the video have to do with how good the music is and I agree, the music captures the essence of the story VW is trying to tell. That really is the gist of clever marketing today. How to tell a story that captures the attention of the viewer amidst all the emails, videos, blogs, and other attention zappers. What makes us listen? What attracts us to what stories? Sometimes I think it is the human connection. The heart-strings being pulled. Other times it is that we in some way relate or resonate with the story because we have been through something similar? Take a look at VW’s recent ad:

So what did you think? Did it resonate with you? I love the interaction of the girl with her father. Maybe I have nostalgia wishing my dad and I had that interaction. That I knew he thought of me in that way. I have watched it a few times and each time, I cry a bit. The hug and embrace at the end keeps the tears flowing. So often my childhood was just about survival and I never really saw my dad in the lens of thinking about my growth and future. Gratitude for dads out there that have a great connection with their daughter(s).

Happy Friday – have a great weekend!

I Was a Biter

My mom used to have a day care in our home. Mind you this was the early 1980’s and there were not state regulations for day care centers in your home. For the most part I think everything my mom did was fine. I do remember an area in our house where there were rocks for decoration. I do not know why my parents left the rocks there, you would think that would be crack for the babies she took care of, but it must not have been an issue.

I was the issue. I would go to school and come home to babies sleeping in my room, and lots of kids playing with my toys, AND my mom was not mine. Well, she was my mom, but she was mine to share during day care hours. A recap in case that was not clear to you. I had to share my bedroom (even if I already shared it with my sister), my toys, and my mom. It drove me crazy. So did one of the kids my mom watched.

I wish I could remember her name. What I do remember was two distinct memories of her. She would taunt me and tell me that her boyfriend was Michael Jackson. I was naive enough to believe her. She would tell me that Michael was going to come pick her up at the end of the day, and yes I believed her. Not that I ever was interested in dating Michael Jackson, it was the idea that she knew him, (or I believed she did). The second thing that pushed me over the edge (if sharing so much was already not enough), it was that she had butterscotch disks and she would not share them with me. Now to preface this, we only got treats and candy at my grandma’s house, so if someone brought candy to my house and did not share, well that was too much for me.

As you might have guessed by the title of this blog, I took the problem into my own hands. I bit her. I, the daughter of the day care owner, bit one of the kids. I got into so much trouble, not with my mom, but with my dad. You did not want to get in trouble with my dad. It sucked. Nothing changed after my teeth did their thing. I got into trouble, and well the girl, she kept babbling about Michael Jackson and bringing those butterscotch disks to my house. I had to stay away from her, she made me so mad. In hindsight, I can see now what strength and resilience I had (remember I was sharing my toys, bedroom, and mom – she could not even share a butterscotch disk from her stash). I do think she is the one that turned me into a biter though. I have to say I understand kids that bite a bit more.

The moral of the story. If you are going to have kids and a day care in your home, make sure your kids have a space of their own and a few toys that they do not have to share!